I am a woman. I know how we work. YES. I do try to lure MR. RIGHT to me but with the wrong moves. GUILTY AS CHARGED.
Let me ask you, what are the ways you've done to make him fall for you?
Changed your hairstyle? Changed the color? Dress provocatively or conservatively to suit him? Smoke? Learned how it works in his circle? BELIEVE ME. I KNOW. Been there, done that, never bought a shirt.
So what if I tell you, you're doing it ALL WRONG? Girl, realize, you don't have to make these changes to make him notice you.
Magazines tell you you have to go through hoops to catch his attention. You have to dress right, talk right, walk right, look right, weigh right... but what is right? Chance is, you'll end up a phony. A big unhappy phony.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO CHANGE YOURSELF TO MAKE MR. RIGHT FALL FOR YOU. If he was mr right, he'd fall for you on the spot watching you sleep, your saliva drooling, your hair disheveled, your breath like a... never mind.
Sure we have to keep ourselves pretty for our men. But hey, don't forget yourself in the process. Don't give him all the credit for all this personal revamping of yours. You wanna change your hair for him, your attitude for him, you'd buy a car for him... PLEASE you don't have to go through such hoops for love which will end up unrequited soon. Do it for yourself instead to naturally feel good about yourself. No validation needed from the guy you've been secretly in love with for the past week (LOL) or 10 years.
GET REAL. Men have feelers for fakes like cockroaches have feelers for food. He would know when you are trying too hard AND THAT my dears will turn him off. Most guys don't want women to go through too much ordeal, they will think we're overdoing it. This leaves them choked and unchallenged.
I SAID MOST, not all. The other portion of that group GLOAT. They love to see their women suffer (a subtle version of sadist, perhaps) and go through hoops for them. I ADVICE YOU TO STEER CLEAR FROM THESE MEN. NOT GOOD. AT ALL.
Males were genetically programmed to hunt for preys. Getting it too easily throws most of them back. They love the chase, the challenge because it makes their find very much worth while. Guys who want it the easier way are either too lazy or not serious at all. Stay away from those kinds.
Woman, you don't have to overdo and outdo yourself or anyone else. If a guy wants to chase you, let him chase you. Don't make it too easy for him by doing desperate moves to get close to him. You'll end up looking and acting like a fool. Seriously!
I was one of these desperate women just so I can attract Mr. Right. All I ended up was Mr. Right-Now and Right-Now meant an hour's worth of conversation and then utter silence.
All I'm saying is... give yourself some credit every time you're hitting on a guy. Liking him doesn't mean lowering yourself to a minute object in the world. So what if you like him? Yeah, I do like him. No big deal. Life goes on whether he likes me or not. I may sound like a really insensitive b*t*h but hey! life doesn't start an end with momentary bliss from a guy you have been crushing on.
If the guy was meant for you, then he'll come around and ask your number. If he's interested in you he'll make the first move no matter how shy he is. In modern times I know it's considered taboo to believe in destiny but I do. So girls, you don't have to make much fuss. If he's for you, he's going to be yours eventually, naturally without you every changing the size of your boobs or your nose. He will love you for you even when you're the ugliest creature when you wake up.
